Southern Motto

Going All Redneck

I went with my sister Tuesday to the mental facility my mother was in before she died. She's convinced she's going to get a lot of money out of it. Listening to her go crazy and get all redneck, yelling and screaming, I realized that my mother was showing the symptoms that let to her death and my sister Susie-Q did nothing to help her. She trying to put the blame on someone else, so no one will figure out she is to blame. I am no longer against this facility as far as my mother was there- i saw too much wrong going through the medical records to have any use for them ever in any capacity- but they are not to blame for her death. Susie-Q is the one one responsible.

She is planning on mortgaging her house to sue them. I hope she realizes she could end up with nothing but debt and disappointment. I tried to tell her but she wouldn't listen.

I'm not planning on getting rich off my mother's death- I'll earn my my fortune the good old fashion way- the lottery!

The 5 'A's of Apology

Acknowledge- you have made a mistake

Admit- to the parties involved your mistake

Apologize- to the parties involved that you regret making the mistake

Amends- should be made and the mistake corrected

Avoid- making the same mistake again

Example: you drop a plate and it shatters into a million pieces.If you simply say you're sorry, does that help put the plate back together.

But if you admit you broke the plate, apologize for it, buy another plate and take care not to break it, things are better.

On Not Being a Doormat

I loaned my favorite niece $1K in April 2013. I had enough money then. She promised to pay me back.

She didn't.

She lied to me after i agreed to take payments.

Which she lied about.

I have since found out that she is pregnant with her second child out of wedlock, with a different man from the first out of wedlock baby.

She was born with kidney problems. She wasn't supposed to ever have children. But since she had no complications with the first one, she decided to go for the second one. Now she has complications. She has dropped out of school, the second the pee stick was dry. She lives on welfare.She is on bedrest.

I don't want anything bad to happen to her. But she  is not the child I helped raise. She lies. She slings her pussy around like she was throwing out Mardi Gras Beads. The entire thing makes me want to cry.

But I can't cry. I kind of feel like karma has kicked her in the butt.

She has taught me to never loan money to anyone which I can't afford to never see again.

My sister had the nerve to ask me if I wanted to go in on a baby gift with her.

I said no.

I think this is a big step toward not being a doormat.

I really don't care if i ever see my niece or her children again. She has broken my heart.

Bad News

Bobo woke up with a bad backache. Since he has Obamacare insurance, he was able to make an appointment without worrying about ruining our finances.

He was in the office until after 5, despite a 2:45 appt. He didn't even make it back to the exam room until 3:45. We finally walked out at 5:30. They did x-rays, gave him a shot and scheduled an MRI. He has degenerative disk disease. His disks in his back are like chalk. I'm sure he will get hiss disability pay this time, as well as a billion dollars in back pay.

Besides his devastating diagnosis, the other sad part of this entire mess is that he went Monday to take an aptitude test for a job that is perfect for him. He has worked in this industry twice before. The shift runs from M-TH, 7:00 a.m.-5:45 p.m. We had planned if he got it, I would go to water aerobics after dropping him off at work.

So it looks like we will grow old together, two broken people.

More Useful Crap- Narcissistic Tells

This describes someone I know to a T. You can apply this against her and it lines up like a ruler. She has done something lately that make me want to smack her in her rubber face. Do you know someone like this?

1. THEY REFUSE RESPONSIBILITY.

It’s not their fault. Not EVER. It’s always your fault. His fault. Her fault. To a narcissist, it’s not their fault they hurt you, it’s your fault for being hurt-able. If your feelings are hurt, it’s not their fault; it’s your fault – for having feelings. (You may be told that you’re “choosing” to feel bad about the hurtful things they’ve done, and that it’s the wrong “choice”.) If caught doing something insensitive or selfish, they will tell you they “had to” do it because of someone or something else. If you imply that anything is their responsibility, they give you excuses and lies, and often, if those fail to work, they will finally make it clear that the bottom line is they simply don’t care because they don’t have to, and the fact that you care is just unnecessary or wrong. From their perspective, you shouldn’t care — you should get it right like they do, and be more like they are. Uncaring.

2. THEY LIE.

Narcissists lie to make themselves look good. They lie to get out of emotional responsibility. They lie to manipulate. They lie to gain influence. They lie out of habit. Life is a game to narcissists – a game they have to think they’re winning – and truth is one casualty in their game plan. The only time a narcissist has any interest in telling the truth is when it will serve them or cost them nothing to do so. The rest of the time, they don’t consider it necessary or important to be all that honest. Honesty can impede their self-gratification and compromise their powerful persona, and they don’t like that. To narcissists the truth is frequently “flexible” and optional. There’s no such thing as an honest narcissist.

3. THEY LOOK DOWN ON YOU.

Narcissists have to make themselves feel bigger by convincing themselves others are smaller by comparison. They’re no strangers to being condescending, snobby, clique-ish, elitist and superior; however, they may be very good at hiding their disdain to prevent a loss of popularity, which narcissists know brings them power. Narcissists with money look down on the working class. Narcissists in the working class look down on those with more money. Educated narcissists dismiss the opinions of those who have no degree. Narcissists with no degree claim educated people don’t actually know anything. Whatever narcissists HAVE (or think they have) is what they use to look down on others WITH. No-one else’s background, appearance, values, political persuasion, school, preferences, religion, way of life, profession or opinions are ever any good or worthy of their respect unless they themselves value and/or possess the same. If you think or choose differently from a narcissist, you’re “wrong”, and they’re “right”.

4. THEY’RE TWO-FACED.

Narcissists literally have two faces — their real face and their stage face. And neither is anything like the other. Which one you see will depend on how long you’ve known them. Narcissists can be very charming and know how to gain favor. Anyone who doesn’t know a narcissist well will tell you the narcissist is one of the greatest people they’ve ever met! They believe this is one of the most intelligent, kindest, most interesting, funny, agreeable, most attractive, talented or accomplished people ever. They may wish they themselves had it so “together” or were so popular. However, anyone who knows that same narcissist better (family members, longtime coworkers, etc) will tell you the narcissist is one of the most horribly frustrating and toxic people they know, and the mere mention of their name makes them feel uneasy, angry, frustrated or otherwise unhappy. Being the only one who is experiencing a narcissist’s real face, while all other family members or coworkers can still only see the narcissist’s stage face is a very lonely, painful and frustrating place to be. Thankfully, the number of people who can see through the facade tends to increase with time.

5. THEY’RE VINDICTIVE.

If you dare to question a narcissist or request things like healthy boundaries and honesty, you’re going to become public enemy number one. The “Mr. or Ms. Wonderful” mask immediately comes off, and there is no level they will not stoop to in order to “punish” you. They have myriad ways of attempting this; some are covert, and some are open and obvious. The narcissist has a seemingly inexhaustible obsession for making people who cross them “pay”. Once they set their sights on you, you’re a permanent enemy, and their seething spite will feel as intense years down the road as it did when it first began. The length of time they can keep up the full intensity of their hatred for you and their campaign to exact revenge is absolutely dumbfounding to non-narcissistic people.

6.THEY PROJECT PSYCHOLOGICALLY.

Many mentally disordered individuals project frequently. Narcissists, however, are some of the most actively and severely projecting people encountered. Ever full of accusations and criticisms, the most crazy-making thing about most of the narcissist’s claims is that YOU are doing exactly what THEY are doing. (Projection.) Have they just lied to you? Well, you’re about to be called dishonest. Are they cheating you out of an opportunity? You’re going to get the finger pointed at you for being sneaky. And you can’t say a word to them about something hurtful they have done, because that makes you an abuser – of them. You can’t give them anything but glowing feedback without their raging at you, but you’ll be the one constantly criticized severely and then called freakishly oversensitive if you show any feelings about it. And if they say so, it’s law — you don’t know what you’re talking about.

7. THEY SMEAR PEOPLE WHO OPPOSE THEM.
Narcissists are allergic to healthy boundaries and fairness. If you question the insensitive things they do or put any limits whatsoever on their bad behavior, you will be targeted for social, professional, or personal obliteration. Whatever narcissists perceive to be your psychological or situational “weak spots” will be their prime targets. For instance, if the narcissist knows that your greatest fear is social ridicule, that will be the main focus of the smear campaign. If he or she knows that recently, you made a mistake for which you feel guilty, that will be used against you. Narcissists know that the more effectively they can pinpoint your insecurities or flaws, the more successful they will be in eroding your confidence and your influence. And if they manage to do that, they stand a good chance of getting back the power they planned to do whatever they pleased with before you “got in their way”.

Small Minds

I just finished reading the mean girl forum. Again. Despite all my promises to stay away.

In a non-Brokeback Mountain kind of way, I just can't quit it.

This little clique of bitches are convinced they are influencing all forms of media, like reporters are hanging on their every word.

Welcome to the grand illusion!

All they do is break people down and try to hurt happy people. I am ashamed I ever joined.

I was a mean girl.

I don't comment any more, I just laugh at their idiocy.

I am no better than them.